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Why Marrying the “Wrong Person” Is Reason for Hope

A sobering article in The New York Times written by Alain de Botton came out recently, titled “Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person.” As the seemingly pessimistic title states, the article proposes that no matter who we end up marrying, we will ultimately find ourselves disillusioned, disappointed and if not unhappy, bereft of the unadulterated joy we had hoped for and downright expected. To de Botton, the remedy for such discouraging news is to denude our culture of the pervasive romanticism that has haunted it for the last 250 years: a collective lowering of the marital bar. Then, with such ringing hopes dulled and diluted, we can better go about our business when it comes to the institution of marriage.

There are obviously elements of truth to the article. In the piece, de Botton discusses the inherent impossibility of any one person to fulfill us in the way we so ardently desire:

“The person who is best suited to us is not the person who shares our every taste (he or she doesn’t exist), but the person who can negotiate differences in taste intelligently — the person who is good at disagreement.”

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Have You Found Your Soulmate Yet?

The other day, amidst the otherwise forgettable and (mostly) obnoxious commercials that flood the in-between of any show or sporting event these days, something caught my eye. The crisp, artistic visuals, the dramatic music, building steadily toward a majestic reveal, and of course the message—one of hope for the weary, fortune for the impoverished, love for the loveless.

It was a commercial for, everyone’s favorite Christian dating site.

Now, if you’ve watched it, hopefully you’ve come back to read the rest of this post. If not, then I can only assume you’ve been swept off your feet by the invitation to meet your “soulmate” and start your wonderful life together.

I wish you the best of luck.

Before I delve into my point, which is aimed at the commercial itself and not, or any other dating site, let me first say that I’m in no way badmouthing dating sites. It’s become quite normal for people to meet and start dating via the world wide web. I know people who have met online and are wonderful, happy and completely normal couples. It’s the way of the future, and when finding a job (LinkedIn), shopping (Amazon), schooling (online classes) and pretty much anything else can—and at times, must—be done online, it’s understandable that dating would be no different. It’s simply one more way to meet someone—another pond to fish. Continue reading

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